Humanes

safeword:

there is no biological point at which a person loses their virginity. it doesn’t work like that. everyone has a different moment that they think “counts” because virginity is a social construct- most people have a series of increasingly intimate sexual experiences, not one life-changing moment. you learn a lot from the first time you give or recieve head, too.

who’s the “real” virgin:

• a man who’s given a girl anal sex but not vaginal
• or a man who’s received anal sex from another man?

who’s the “real” virgin?:

• a girl who’s comfortable with herself sexually, understands her own pleasure and her partners’, has had many sexual experiences for five years (giving and receiving head, been fingered/has given handjobs/fingered other people) but has never had a penis in her vagina
• or a girl who has been with one boy for a month, tried to have sex with him but it hurt too much so she asked him to pull out after only four or five thrusts?

or here:

• a woman who’s had penetrative sex once
• or a woman who’s had mutually fulfilling sexual experiences for decades, understands her own pleasure and her partners’, masturbates regularly but has never been penetrated by a penis because she’s a lesbian who likes oral?

thoughts:

• if a dildo counts for the lesbian, how come penetrative masturbation doesn’t count for the straight girl?
• if anal counts for a man giving it and and a man receiving it, how come if doesn’t count for a girl receiving it?
• what matters about virginity besides that it’s a new experience, if being sexually active has already been achieved? why don’t we talk about first time getting head the same way?

virginity is a social construct.

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How many times have I tried to explain this, to no avail?